Q: What does NLP stand for?
A: NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming - a rather daunting name for some extremely effective techniques. The good news is that you don’t have to understand it to benefit from it – that’s our job. NLP coaching uses a collection of techniques, tailored to the individual, to help our clients make their lives better.
Q: What are your qualifications?
A: We are all individual members of The Professional Guild of NLP, and were trained by Pegasus NLP who are committed to providing high quality, skills-led training. The Pegasus certification programmes conform with the Guild's standards, Code of Practice and guidelines.
Q:I like to drink quite a lot. How do I know if I‘m at risk of becoming dependent?
A: We all handle and process alcohol differently, but if you drink every day you are certainly ‘at risk’ of becoming dependent. Try stopping for a couple of days – if you get shaky or sweaty, then you already have a dependency. If not, but you find it difficult, then you have a fairly strong psychological dependence. Even without becoming dependent you can be doing yourself quite a lot of damage so it’s certainly worth getting assessed.
Q: Is there any harm in having a spliff in the evening and some cocaine at the weekend?
A: Yes. There is increasingly powerful evidence about the links between prolonged cannabis use and mental health problems, particularly if you started using quite young. Cocaine use increases the risk of heart attack and stroke as it increases heart rate and blood pressure. Mental health effects are also common including panic attacks and changes in personality. Not to mention the risks associated with these drugs being illegal. Whilst drug use can seem harmless and fun, regular use can damage your health and lead to dependency and lack of control. Feel free to book in for a confidential assessment to discuss what you can do to tackle this habit.
Q: My 14 year old son is apathetic to the point of inertia. Can you help?
A: A lot of parents describe their teenagers (particularly boys) to be unenthusiastic and ‘lazy’ – whilst this is often described as ‘completely normal’ it can also be extremely frustrating! Teenagers are going through big changes, both physically/hormonally and in their school lives. Depending upon their peer group, there can also be an emphasis on fitting-in and being ‘cool’. This can lead to stress causing a lack of confidence amongst other things. Confidential NLP coaching allows an impartial coach to get on the level of the young person and gain insight into where the behaviour is coming from. Often, some work on internal thought patterns and confidence, as well as slight changes in the way you as parents interact with your young person can produce excellent results, reducing frustration considerably.
Q: My 10 year old won’t join in anything. Should I be worried?
A: Worrying probably won’t help in this situation, however it might be worth looking into things a bit more. It may be that your child is shy/lacking in confidence. Shyness can materialise at any point in life and can make normal situations seem a lot more difficult than they are – so it is definitely worth addressing. However, it may be that your child simply isn’t interested in the things you are looking for him/hem to do! Make a start by getting on their level and discussing it with them, find out how they feel when they are/are not joining in. If there is underlying shyness/lack of confidence, a few coaching sessions can definitely help.
Q: I have been scared of spiders since I can remember. My husband wants me to go to a zoo to have therapy – does this work?
A: These sorts of treatments for phobias often involve you ‘getting used’ to the thing you fear, starting small and working your way up. This can be very effective. However, a lot of people are put off by the fact that they will have to confront the subject of their fear. NLP coaching has a specific technique which deals with phobias without the need to be introduced to the subject of your fear. It works based on the fact that most phobias are largely irrational, automatic responses – it scrambles your brain’s automatic response and dissolves the reaction.
Q: I have recently been promoted and am suddenly expected to give presentations to large groups of people. Can coaching help?
A: Absolutely. NLP coaching can enable you to access confidence when you need to, and give you strategies for planning and executing your presentations so that when it comes to it, you are confident in your ability to perform.
Q: I am an actor and am balancing multiple jobs to try and pay the rent. I find that in doing this, my acting goes out of the window – how can NLP coaching help me?
A: NLP coaching can enable you to look objectively at how you’re structuring your days/weeks, and help you to plan your career into your life. It can enable you to look at the different strands of your acting career – jobs, looking for work, networking, classes, collaboration etc., and enable you to find ways to prioritise it and consider it as part of your ‘work’ in the same way that you do your ‘money jobs’. A few sessions can get you absolutely on track and feeling like an actor again.
Q: I’m feeling stuck. I went from a course I wasn’t sure about at uni into a ‘good’ job which I find unsatisfying. I’m not sure what I’d rather be doing and I feel a bit directionless, though I’m not sure whether it’s too late to start a new career.Could coaching help?
A: Definitely. NLP coaching can help you to look at your values and where they’re currently missing in your life and job. You can then investigate what sort of careers, life/changes would allow you to get more of these values into your life. Coaching can help you set well formed, short and long term goals to get you focussed and on track to where you want to be.
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